Nollywood actress and evangelist Tonto Dikeh has advised Christian men seeking marriage to be more intentional in their approach to courtship, warning against using spiritual declarations as a substitute for genuine effort.
Speaking in a recent video shared online, the actress criticised what she described as “low-effort” courtship among some Christian men, urging them to put more thought and commitment into pursuing women they intend to marry.
According to Dikeh, many church brothers rely heavily on statements such as “God sent me to you” while neglecting the practical and emotional aspects of building a meaningful relationship.
“This is a very funny topic, but it is one that we actually need to discuss. So, if you are a brother in the Lord, come forward; this is for you,” she said.
She questioned why some Christian men assume women in the church do not appreciate thoughtful gestures or gifts during courtship.
“Why do church brothers think church sisters don’t require gifts? What about this low-effort thing you put into wooing or pursuing a woman?” she asked.
The actress stressed that claiming divine direction should never replace intentional actions when seeking a life partner.
“Church brothers would say, ‘God sent me to you,’ and blah, blah. God can send you, but using spiritual language to mask emotional laziness is a distortion of God’s character.”
Dikeh further argued that saying, “God told me you are my wife,” should not be viewed as a shortcut to winning a woman’s heart or avoiding the responsibilities that come with a serious relationship.
“Saying, ‘God told me you are my wife,’ is not an excuse to bypass intentionality and practical effort,” she added.